All Strung Out

Bondage, unfortunately, tends to be a dirty word in most relationships.  Most couples are afraid of giving up all control to their partner.  When a person thinks of bondage they usually think of some woman in leather tying them up, ball gag and all.  Bondage doesn't have to be this extreme and it doesn't have to be a scary experience.  If you trust him or her to care for you in other areas of your life, trusting them in the bedroom shouldn't be a far stretch.  Bondage can be a liberating experience whether you're usually in control or a little more meek. 

If you've never experienced bondage before there are lots of books out there to help you on your path to satisfaction.  Among my favorites is Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes.  This book shows you everything from the various knots you can tie to different forms of bondage you can explore.  The bondage experience can be as hardcore or sensual as you like.

My first bondage experience was on my best friend's livingroom floor.  She used silk scarves to blindfold me then tie my wrists and ankles to various pieces of furniture, leaving me spread-eagle and open for anything.  Several men and women present then touched me, kissed me, licked my dripping wet pussy, and explored my body.  I had no idea who was sucking my nipples or who had their fingers up me making me cum again and again.  When they were done teasing and tantalizing me, my boyfriend (at the time) flipped me over, grabbed my hair and fucked me doggy-style while everyone watched. 

Few first-time bondage experiences are quite like this, but they can be just as pleasurable.  I advocate using silk ropes for the inexperienced because they don't leave marks and are easier to wriggle out of.  Always use a code word with your partner that wouldn't normally be heard during sex, like "walrus".  When the code word is spoken, everything stops, regardless of how into it you are or how close to orgasm.  Set your ground rules before you head to the bedroom.  Is there an offlimits area?  Are you allowed to bring others into the bedroom?  Do you enjoy a little spanking or is that something you would rather build up to?  Make sure the rules are clear.

When you have your ground rules down and your code word set, anything goes.  Release your inhibitions and let go of all control.  If you're in charge, tease your partner.  Blindfold them so they don't know what is coming next.  Try out new toys.  Bring them right to the edge, then cool it down.  Trace ice over their body and follow it with your mouth.  Be creative. 

As you both learn more and become more comfortable with bondage in the bedroom, try new things.  Anal could be something fun to incorporate, but should be explored before you mix it with bondage.  Both are more difficult sexual techniques to use so that you can get used to it first. 

If you're interested in adding another person to the experience, be sure your partner is actually willing first.  You should never feel pressured to try anything you don't want to do, nor should you pressure anyone else.  Sex should be liberating and pleasurable, not intimidating and frightening. 

Now that you have the basics get in the bedroom and liven things up.  Don't forget to tell all of my horny sluts here how your first bondage experience went!