Light My Fire

Photo Courtesy of Carlos Porto

Sex is all about heat and passion.  When we're talking about great sex or chemistry between two sexual partners we often times talk about the "heat" between them.  How many times have you heard someone talk about "blazing passion" or call a past lover their "old flame"?

That's not what this is about.  We're talking about a different kind of heat in the bedroom today.  We're tlaking about flesh-searing actual fire.  When I say "light my fire", I mean that literally.  You see, some people really get off on being set on fire.  We're not talking about a human torch or actually burning a person's flesh.  That's too disturbing and highly illegal.  Fire play is all about safety and sensuality.

You can use items found at any hardware store to create your fire play extravaganza.  The first thing to create is a torch.  You can use anything from candles to Q-tips, or you can use hardware store items to create a torch.  Don't use tiki torches or anything else that requires oil or fuel to stay lit.  The oil or fuel could potentially spill on your submissive, creating a real human torch, leaving you vulnerable to murder charges.  Don't be that person!  I prefer candles.  They're nice, simple, easy to relight, and provide wax for me to drip onto my sub.  Aside from lighting someone up, you'll also need a few think towels to smother the fire and a good supply of water nearby, just in case. 

While you don't want oil spilled on your sub, you do need something to ignite.  Your basic rubbing alcohol will do the trick, but don't use it straight.  For fire play, the alcohol should be a 70/30 mix; 70% alcohol, 30% water.  The water helps keep your sub from actually being burned.  Don't get me wrong; they'll feel the heat from the fire, but you don't want to seriously injure someone.  As the saying goes, "If you play with fire, you will get burned".  If you want to spend a little more money on your fuel, you can use vodka, Jack Daniels, or any other alcoholic beverage.  Don't get all crazy and just pour it on.  The point of fire play is to control your fire like you control your submissive.  You don't actually even have to apply the fuel to your submissive.  That's where the torches come in handy. 

There's a lot of things to do with fire, but before you begin, make sure your sub have their hair pulled back and covered.  It may help to wet it down as well.  You don't want to turn your sub into Michael Jackson.  It also helps to have an assistant to help put out any fires.  

Most of the time, some warm-up activities are in order.  You can light Q-tips and run them up and down your sub's skin, touch them with lit candles, or draw small trails in alcohol and light these.  Keep it small and simple and work your way up. 

Now you have two directions to go with your fire: hit or ignite.  You can light the torches and beat your sub with them, or you can draw a design on their back and ignite it.  Let's go with beating first.  There are some fun things that can be done with weapons.  You can ignite just about anything.  Most things will be destroyed by the fire, but some can take the heat.  Kevlar paddles or floggers are great for fire play.  You can put on a great show by dimming the lights, dipping them in your alcohol solution, and beating your sub. 

Igniting your sub can be a lot of fun and wow any audience you might have.  Stand your sub up for this, possibly even tying up their hands.  Drawinng intricate patterns on your sub's back then watching the flames race across their skin can be an insanely erotic experience.  The flames should only burn a mere two or three seconds at the most.  Smother the flames with the towel so your sub doesn't get burnt.  Fire play doesn't have to end there.  You can even push your thumb into a wax ball to create a little bowl.  Have your sub lay down and place the wax bowl on their back.  Fill it with the alcohol solution and ignite.  As the alcohol burns, the wax will melt down over them.  Keep your bowl small so that the alcohol will burn up quickly so as not to create a real fire.

Have fun and explore the many ways you can bring erotic fire play into your sex life.  Above all, remember to always keep your BDSM safe, sane, and consensual.  If your sub doesn't consent to the act, then the act becomes torture.  Good luck and be safe!